Fall Essentials

For those of you up north, Fall is upon you. For those of us down here in the south, its still sweltering. However, its never too early to start thinking about your fall wardrobe and making sure you have the basic essentials to get you through. One of the key items of clothing that I suggest anyone have for their fall wardrobe is a classic denim jacket. A denim jacket is very versatile and can take your outfit in many different directions. Whether you pair it up with a long skirt or a pair of black slacks or jeans, it's certain to make a bold statement about your fashion choices. This particular jacket is from the Old Navy Plus line. It's tapered in at the waist so its going to accentuate your curves and minimize the size of your waist. When you're a plus sized woman, I don't suggest that you get the longer denim jackets that cover up your posterior. Unless they're a tapered fit, they're more prone to giving you the appearance of looking bigger than you actually are. A short waisted jacket is going to be more flattering to your figure...and you're leaving the booty available for viewing. As I always say, if you've got the assets, flaunt 'em!

Fashion at a high price

I love purses just about as much as I love my family. The perfect purse is as important as finding the perfect man...almost. However, I have limits. For example, as much as I love this purseI simply cannot see myself ever spending $14,000 on a handbag. No, you read that correctly. $14,000! I don't know about you, but I can buy quite a few designer handbags for that amount of money. I can also throw in a pair or two of designer shoes as well.

I'm not cheap, by any means, but I do believe in a certain amount of frugality where fashion is concerned. If you've got $14,000 to just toss away on a purse, perhaps you could just spend $4,000 on a handbag and maybe donate the remaining $10,000 to a very worthwhile charity?? Just a thought.

Changes

First of all, apologies for the gap in posting. Moving one's household and worldly possessions to a new home takes up a lot of time, blood, sweat and tears. Need I say that I detest moving? Way too much manual labor involved for this diva!

Since my last post, my love life has taken a turn for the toilet. Yep, that's right. I got dumped. But you know...its okay. I'm actually fine with this. I actually should have ended this relationship long ago but I made the grave mistake of dragging it out. Why did I do this you ask? Because I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to find anyone else. I was settling. It was only after the break-up that I realized how much stress and tension was released from me. I had been staying in a relationship that had died long ago and in doing so, I was slowly killing off very valuable parts of myself and who I am.

Don't make this mistake. Learn the value of yourself and all that you are worth. Do not let any man (or woman for that matter) validate you as a person. You need to be your own validation in life. I spent four years seeking validation from a man who I knew I wasn't meant to be with. Trust me when I say that looks aren't everything when it comes to a relationship. You can be with a complete god or goddess but if the love is missing...if the passion is gone...if the chemistry has dissipated, then heed my advice and move on. You will truly be surprised at the weight that is lifted from your shoulders.

Now comes the fun part in being a single woman. I actually have the freedom to start looking all over again. At first I saw this as a task. I saw it as drudgery and something I wanted to avoid at all cost. But then I re-evaluated the situation. I pulled myself up by the boot straps and had a good conversation with my inner-diva. I'm still very much a young woman. I am just now in my prime at almost 37 years of age. I get the pleasure of experiencing meeting new people. New men. New challenges. I'm excited to be single again. Mind you, I hope that it doesn't last for a long period of time as I do hope to meet an incredible man some day but for now, I'm certainly going to bask in the thrill of being a woman on the prowl.

I do promise to be more regular with posting now that my life is getting back in order. I will get back on task and posts will be coming at regular intervals. In the meantime, continue to love the woman that you are, embrace your inner diva and go buy yourself a new pair of shoes!! Shoes always make me smile!

Don't Forget

Did you tell yourself you were beautiful today? Did you look in the mirror and see a sexy and gorgeous diva staring back at you? Well if you haven't, you better. It's a necessary task for every single day for the rest of your life! Go do it! Now! Why are you still here reading? Go! Thank you!

Know Your Jeans

How often to you go and try on one pair of jeans after another all to go home empty handed, frustrated and craving some Ben and Jerry's? Ok, maybe the Ben and Jerry's is just me. Did you know that if you go to Zafu.com and answer a few questions about your body type, they'll make the suggestion of exactly what kind of jeans you should be purchasing and wearing. It's really rather nifty and I highly suggest you go give it a whirl!

Just Say No

Alright my sisters of grand proportions...here is your fashion no-no for today. Please, for the love all that is sacred and holy, stop wearing your shirts tucked in. Unless you enjoy that bulging of the rolls look, its just not attractive. Ok, even if you enjoy that look, its still not attractive. They now make so many tops and blouses that are made to cover up that which we need to conceal just a wee bit. My biggest problem area is my stomach. No way am I going to wear a shirt and shove it down my jeans and further enhance my imperfections. If you happen to have a smaller waist then play that up by wearing a blouse that gathers in slightly at the waist. Just be careful. If you're a woman with a larger chest, you're going to run into the problem of gapping if its a button down blouse. When I'm wearing a shirt that tapers in at the waist, I try to stick with something buttonless. My ta ta's have a mind of their own and don't need further encouragement to pop out at the least opportune moment.

So, remember what we've learned here today. Conceal what is meant to be concealed and play up what is meant to be revealed. Stop tucking your shirt in. Just don't do it. Not to mention, it gives you that not so lovely roll right across your posterior. This can never be a good thing. Never. In closing, if you simply must tuck a shirt in due to clothing restrictions or rules for work, then just make sure that you're wearing pants that are properly fitting and if need be, get yourself a control top panty. They can be your best friend. Trust me!

Really??

I have a hard time believing that a cream is going to help me obtain that which is known as "slim". Let's be real here. This is the description they give their product.

“A new, advanced technology adipose antagonist (in layman’s terms that’s fat fighter) that features QuSome encapsulated caffeine molecules for quick and targeted delivery of the skin-slimming stuff of choice of supermodels, spokespeople, and other celebs.”

It’s $29 for 6 oz. Personally, I can think of a lot better things to do with $29 then rubbing cream on my thighs with the anticipation of them shrinking. Can you say purses? Shoes? $29 would also buy me a few tidbits at Bath and Body Works...my all-time favorite store. Yeah, I'll pass on the fat cream and just take my chances on the good old fashioned exercise regimen!

No, No, No

Here is a fashion faux paux tip for you. As I've stated before, there are certain things that you should refrain from wearing. I don't care that its in your size and I don't care that you love it. Halter tops, for instance. Stop it. Big girls should NOT wear halter tops unless you've just got some incredibly toned arms, great shoulders and something to support the girls. If you can't answer yes to all of the above, then

DO NOT DO IT!

Believe me, I'm all about the equality of women when it comes to fashions. I think that woman of size get short changed a lot of times in apparel. But, no matter how equal you want to be, there are just some things that you can't wear that the skinny girl does wear. Get over it. Find what works and work your find.