Take the plunge

If you're one who likes to bare a lot of cleavage then I've got the "must have" bra for you! I have this bra in 5 different colors. It's called the Passion Lace Lined Plunge Bra and its from Lane Bryant. What makes this bra different from other bras that enhance cleavage is that with this bra, you can control how much cleave you show. There are removable air pillows in the side panels of the cup. Take them out for average cleavage or leave them in for daring dramatic cleavage. Just remember to take them out when washing the bra and I never place these bras (nor any bra for that matter) into the dryer.

And just so you know, they usually have matching panties in stock to match every color of the bra that they have. Trust me, I have all of the panties too! It's an addiction...what can I say?

Just a reminder

Have you been working on your self-esteem? Have you been looking into the mirror every day and telling yourself how beautiful and how special you are? If you haven't, you should be. If you have, then make sure you continue. The first step in having people accept you for the woman that you are, is you accepting yourself for the woman that you are!

Sometimes...

It's not about the clothes that you're wearing, it's about the accessory that you're carrying. You can have a great outfit but don't forget to finish it off with a fantastic purse. For me, that's easy. I'm a purse fanatic. I truly believe that you can never own too many handbags. They don't have to be expensive. I've found bags on sale at Target for as low as $5 and they look like a $100 bag. This is my dream bag here. It's by Michael Kors and it retails for $398.00. Yes, I know that's very expensive. Yes, I know that $400 can buy a lot more than one purse. But we're worth expensive things once in a while.
If you absolutely cannot afford an expensive bag then shop around a little. Hit up the sales at discount stores and department stores. You'd be surprised at the bargains you can find. Don't be afraid to step outside of the box and go with a bold color. Black and brown may go with everything, but they're boring if that's all you ever buy. So go..now...take thyself purse shopping and think luxurious. Think sexy. Think about yourself and how much you're worth it!!

How It Measures...

Ladies, do yourself a favor and please go get properly measured for your bra size. You would not believe the number of women who are wearing the wrong size bra day in and day out. They do this either because they just assume they are one size or they do this because they fall in love with a particular bra and will do whatever necessary to squeeze their girls in. Please, please, please. Stop this madness.

I'll admit, I went for a very long time and had never been properly measured before. I would just try on bras and take what held my abilities the best and was most comfortable. Little did I know that for the longest time, I'd been wearing the wrong size bra. I was wearing a bra that was too big around yet too small in cup size. I'd been doing this for years. Since being measured, I stick strictly within the size that I am. I do not waiver. If a store doesn't have it in my proper size, I simply try back at a later time or I go on to a different store.

Go into any plus size ladies store such as Lane Bryant or even Macy's and other department stores that have actual lingerie departments. Just tell the sales clerk that you're uncertain of your definitive bra size and you'd like to be measured. It takes 15 seconds. Trust me, those 15 seconds will make a world of difference in how you feel and how you look!

Shoes do make the woman

Did you know that Payless Shoe Stores carries American Eagle brand shoes now? I found out just by wandering in one day and I fell in love with the selection. They have everything from casual slip on shoes, to flip flops to adorable dressy shoes such as these that I have shown here. Here again, notice the heel on the shoe. Notice that you'll not be trying to balance your big, beautiful frame on a heel tip which is the size of a pin head. I know that sometimes its about fashion and not practicality but as I've stated before...reality is accepting the fact that some shoes were just not meant for big girls to wear! That being said, I really think you should make it your task to get out and find yourself a great pair of shoes. Trust me. Shoes make for a happy woman and a happy woman makes for a happy environment all around! By the way, those shoes that you see up there. The sexy red ones...they're only $19.99!! How great is that?

Spanx Me!

How many times have you found a dress that you thought would be just perfect for you. How many times have you seen a pair of pants and had to have them because they'd look terrific with that sweater you got for your birthday. How many times have you tried these things on and had to walk down-trodden back to the rack and return them because they allowed every bulge and roll and anything else negative to be cast into the limelight?

No more! There is a solution and that solution is SPANX. There is a Spanx product made to control everything from your upper body down to your calves. It's revolutionary. They're wonderful. I first noticed them sold at Lane Bryant not too long ago which made me a happy girl. I originally heard about them on the Oprah Winfrey show and I knew right then that I would be a fan forever. They run in size from small to extra large at Spanx.com however at Lane Bryant, they're offered in the plus sizes.

Seriously ladies...we all need to get our Spanx'ing!

Life Changing Ways

If you're like me, you have probably found yourself on diet after diet after diet. Constantly trying to find the new fad that will work for you. I have discovered one thing. Diets do not work. Dieting will not get you where you want to be. Changing your lifestyle...that will bring results. It's a lifetime change. Not a 30 day process. Exercise and very sensible eating habits...that's what it's all about. I'm not the best when it comes to being devoted to an exercise regimen, BUT, to my credit, I do run after 5 kids all day long, up and down the stairs, running a household with 10 people in it...so I get my fair share of fitness in.

What it all boils down to is sensibility. Use your head. You know that the pizza is going to stick with you a lot longer than a grilled chicken caesar salad. It's making wise decisions and being devoted to changing the way you eat on a daily basis. Some of us may never be thin, but that's okay. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle and a positive outlook on life is all that we'll ever need!

Embracing Yourself

Always remember to look into the mirror every single day and see the beautiful woman that you are. Never let anybody tell you that you're less of a person because you're bigger in size. You are beautiful, incredible and special and you are someone important and you're destined for great things! Embrace your inner diva every single day and recognize your self for all that you are worth...and that is something priceless!

Sheer Elegance

I've found a new haven in which to shop! I'm simply in love with Igigi! I love their clothing. It's elegant and tailored and sophisticated. They also have a bridal selection which is simply beautiful. Their stores are somewhat limited in location but I have a feeling that they're branching out rather quickly. In the meantime, I'm delighted to be able to shop online. I would urge you to go and have a look.

Summer Facial Tips

With summer here, its important to remember to take care of your skin. Let's face it. Bigger girls sweat more. Your body is getting a work out in the hot summer heat. You need to be certain to cleanse and moisturize your face every night before bed. It's a must do! One of the best face washes I've found is a Brazilian Nut Foaming Face Wash. I'm totally addicted to it and would have no problem washing my face 20 times per day. Tree Hut has a great line to go along with the foaming face wash. They have a Body Butter, Shaving Cream (which gives the best and closest shave ever) a sugar scrub and a body lotion. I have the entire line of Brazilian Nut. In addition, they have Original Shea, Coconut Lime and Almond Honey. I get all of these products at Wal-Mart and not one of them is over $5.00. You can't beat that. So this just proves to you that products for your skin don't have to be tres expensive and you can get great results while still leaving your wallet intact.

Linger in Lingerie

Always remember...Sexiness is a state of mind. No one can tell you that you're not sexy if you believe that you are.

Here's my tip for the day. Don't be afraid to experiment with lingerie. They have incredibly beautiful and sexy pieces of lingerie that go all the way up to 4x and 5x. You have to remember that your man is with you because he loves everything about you, including your body. Embrace your body and learn to love it in a beautiful corset or a flouncy nightie. I personally have an addiction to all that is considered "lingerie". I firmly believe that one can never have enough sexy panties, cleavage enhancing bras and eye popping chemises. And one more thing...wearing lingerie is perfectly acceptable even if its just you by yourself. Nothing wrong with feeling sexy even when a man isn't around.

Discover, Explore, Unleash

When I chose the title of this blog, I seriously gave it a lot of thought. The one thing that kept coming to my mind was that I needed to embrace the woman that is within me as well as my physical body. I went through a long period of time where I couldn't and didn't accept myself for who I was and what I looked like. Society tells us that to be a beautiful woman we must be "X" amount of pounds. Society lies. I am a size 18 and today I am 100% happy with the woman that I am. I can put on an outfit and feel ever bit as sexy as the size 2 super model in the magazine cover photos. I've learned to love my curves. I'm proud of my hips and the sway that they carry. Being thin isn't being beautiful. Loving and accepting yourself is beautiful and when you can embrace all of the woman that you are, you will exude far more sexual prowess than you ever thought imaginable.

Tip for the day!

I've often found some great deals by searching online for coupons to use before I shop at stores such as Lane Bryant. The least I've ever found was 20% off of my entire order. When it comes to me and my money, 20% makes a difference believe it or not. Search before you shop!

Walk Smart

Can someone please tell me why really big girls insist on walking around on really really skinny high heeled shoes? Please tell me how this micro thin stiletto heel is going to support your 200+ lb frame? It's not! Get some shoes with a substantial heel. You can still get a gorgeous shoe with a really high heel but have a little substance to the heel. It's better for your feet. It's better for your walking and its certainly easier on your shoe!

These shoes are DKNY. They're sexy. They're attractive and they've got a 4" heel on them. That's enough to give you the height that you want without breaking down the heel of your shoe under your weight. Walk smart...its the only way to go!

Fashion Faux Paux...Avoid at all cost!

As with just about anything in life, there are rules. This applies to fashion as well. There are things a woman of size can do with ease and there are things that she should never do. I'm a firm believer in the rule of

"Just because they make it in your size, doesn't mean you should wear it!"

I have a really hard time seeing bigger women walking down the street wearing a pair of low riders with their booties hanging out and their rolls hanging over. DO NOT DO THIS! This will never be attractive. Ever. There are some wonderfully made jeans out there for plus sized women. There are jeans for every shape. I, myself look better in a boot leg cut jean. I like the slimming appearance it gives my thighs and when I buy an average length and pair them with a great pair of boots, it gives me the appearance of height (which I don't have) and really long legs (which I also do not have).

Another fashion faux paux that plus sized women make is buying the wrong size bra. I know how it is. You go into the store and you see a really beautiful and sexy bra and you think to yourself "I must have this!!" But wait. They only have it in a 40D and you're a 42DD. Do not buy this bra! First of all, you're going to cut yourself off around the middle giving yourself the appearance of 14 extra rolls from the armpits down. You're also going to try to squeeze your DD girls into just one D. This is going to give you that third boob affect. This never looks sexy. Ever. Resist the temptation and keep shopping. Plenty of stores offer some really incredibly sexy bras that still give you the support and coverage you need when you're blessed with ample assets.

My final "Don't" for the day is midriff shirts. If you aren't rocking abs of steel then I truly don't think the midriff shirt is for you. In reality, its a personal choice but I just can't see why a woman would want her fat rolls hanging out for the world to see. There are so many cute and form fitting tees that would look equally stunning on you as on any other woman while still concealing the fluffies. Resist the urge to let it all hang out, please!

That's it for my first installment of Fashion Faux Paux. I've got many more and will present them on a regular basis! Somewhere there is a big girl dressing badly and I'm going to always find her!

Asian Flair

Get the Asian feel and look with a sexy kimono blouse. This blouse will draw attention to and flatter your cleavage. It would look great paired with a terrific pair of boot cut jeans or with a pair of white crop pants for a dress casual appearance. I found this at Alight.com and its a bargain at just $38.00. I happen to like blouses that have a longer hemline. I'm not one to bare the midriff and I think that should be the general rule for women over size 14. Sometimes its nice to dress to conceal, not to reveal...unless its the boobage of course!

Accentuate and Eliminate

When you've got a body that is based on voluptuous curves, you must learn to accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative. Dresses like this one found at monifc.com do just that. This is a dress that's great for a woman who wants to bring attention to her bust and her slim waste yet diminishing attention from her mid section. The contrasting colors draw the eye in towards the waste and bust. This dress is a must-have in my book!

Embracing Your Inner Diva

This blog will be my attempt at bringing focus to the fact that this is not just a size six world. There are women of every size, shape and color and we all deserve to be as fashionable as the next woman. Here, I will touch on self esteem, beauty tips, fashion finds, fashion do's and don'ts and so much more. I do hope you'll bookmark me and come back often. Embracing your inner diva is what it's all about here! Know yourself and know exactly who and what you are. Recognize your beauty both inward and outward. Have the confidence necessary to tackle the world head on. It doesn't happen overnight, but with dedication and a positive outlook on life, each step becomes easier!

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