Walk Smart

Can someone please tell me why really big girls insist on walking around on really really skinny high heeled shoes? Please tell me how this micro thin stiletto heel is going to support your 200+ lb frame? It's not! Get some shoes with a substantial heel. You can still get a gorgeous shoe with a really high heel but have a little substance to the heel. It's better for your feet. It's better for your walking and its certainly easier on your shoe!

These shoes are DKNY. They're sexy. They're attractive and they've got a 4" heel on them. That's enough to give you the height that you want without breaking down the heel of your shoe under your weight. Walk smart...its the only way to go!

Fashion Faux Paux...Avoid at all cost!

As with just about anything in life, there are rules. This applies to fashion as well. There are things a woman of size can do with ease and there are things that she should never do. I'm a firm believer in the rule of

"Just because they make it in your size, doesn't mean you should wear it!"

I have a really hard time seeing bigger women walking down the street wearing a pair of low riders with their booties hanging out and their rolls hanging over. DO NOT DO THIS! This will never be attractive. Ever. There are some wonderfully made jeans out there for plus sized women. There are jeans for every shape. I, myself look better in a boot leg cut jean. I like the slimming appearance it gives my thighs and when I buy an average length and pair them with a great pair of boots, it gives me the appearance of height (which I don't have) and really long legs (which I also do not have).

Another fashion faux paux that plus sized women make is buying the wrong size bra. I know how it is. You go into the store and you see a really beautiful and sexy bra and you think to yourself "I must have this!!" But wait. They only have it in a 40D and you're a 42DD. Do not buy this bra! First of all, you're going to cut yourself off around the middle giving yourself the appearance of 14 extra rolls from the armpits down. You're also going to try to squeeze your DD girls into just one D. This is going to give you that third boob affect. This never looks sexy. Ever. Resist the temptation and keep shopping. Plenty of stores offer some really incredibly sexy bras that still give you the support and coverage you need when you're blessed with ample assets.

My final "Don't" for the day is midriff shirts. If you aren't rocking abs of steel then I truly don't think the midriff shirt is for you. In reality, its a personal choice but I just can't see why a woman would want her fat rolls hanging out for the world to see. There are so many cute and form fitting tees that would look equally stunning on you as on any other woman while still concealing the fluffies. Resist the urge to let it all hang out, please!

That's it for my first installment of Fashion Faux Paux. I've got many more and will present them on a regular basis! Somewhere there is a big girl dressing badly and I'm going to always find her!

Asian Flair

Get the Asian feel and look with a sexy kimono blouse. This blouse will draw attention to and flatter your cleavage. It would look great paired with a terrific pair of boot cut jeans or with a pair of white crop pants for a dress casual appearance. I found this at Alight.com and its a bargain at just $38.00. I happen to like blouses that have a longer hemline. I'm not one to bare the midriff and I think that should be the general rule for women over size 14. Sometimes its nice to dress to conceal, not to reveal...unless its the boobage of course!

Accentuate and Eliminate

When you've got a body that is based on voluptuous curves, you must learn to accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative. Dresses like this one found at monifc.com do just that. This is a dress that's great for a woman who wants to bring attention to her bust and her slim waste yet diminishing attention from her mid section. The contrasting colors draw the eye in towards the waste and bust. This dress is a must-have in my book!

Embracing Your Inner Diva

This blog will be my attempt at bringing focus to the fact that this is not just a size six world. There are women of every size, shape and color and we all deserve to be as fashionable as the next woman. Here, I will touch on self esteem, beauty tips, fashion finds, fashion do's and don'ts and so much more. I do hope you'll bookmark me and come back often. Embracing your inner diva is what it's all about here! Know yourself and know exactly who and what you are. Recognize your beauty both inward and outward. Have the confidence necessary to tackle the world head on. It doesn't happen overnight, but with dedication and a positive outlook on life, each step becomes easier!